A lot of guys are frustrated about their partner’s sex life. Women have much more trouble reaching orgasm than men, and this leads to a boring and even frustrating sex life for many couples. When they do have orgasms it’s usually clitoral, a.k.a. through the stimulation of the clitoris.
What if I told you that a simple massage, if done RIGHT, can increase the chances of your girl reaching climax and bring your sex life back to… life?
It’s possible. And it’s easier than you think.
Before you begin, you need to have a few things handy, namely massage oil, a clean towel, a bed and, of course, privacy. The last thing you want is to be interrupted by the doorbell or a ringing phone.
The towel is mandatory as it will not only protect the sheets from absorbing massage oil, but it will also allow your girl to feel more secure when she reaches climax, as she may ejaculate. That’d be amazing, right?
A word about the lubricant. Phase two of the massage is the actual vaginal stimulation which, as you may have guessed, will be done with your penis. Now, if you plan on using a condom, you should opt for a water based lubricant. If not, an oil based lubricant such as the grape seed oil will work better for the massage.
Either way, you have to have your massage oil ready.
The way you do this is not something overly complicated. In fact, I’m willing to bet you’ve read about it before. The problem is most guys just don’t stick to the process. They massage their partner’s shoulders for a moment and then they rush right into sex.
Lie your partner on her back, then climb on top of her, on her buttocks. Apply massage oil in your hands and start a light massage all across her back, from top to bottom. Make sure you don’t apply too much pressure as this is just the warm-up.
Tip: when you massage her lower back, make sure you slide backward so you can continue doing this with minimal effort. When moving upwards, slide back to your initial position, with your body on top of her behind.
Don’t try anything sexual yet, just make sure she’s relaxed and enjoying herself.
Once you’ve done the warm-up, start applying more pressure when you massage her shoulders and upper back. Go down again to her lower back, her buttocks and her inner thighs.
Once she’s comfortable with you massaging her inner thighs, you can transition your way to her clitoris. Take your time, though, don’t rush this as she’ll lose the relaxed state she’s in. pay close attention to her reaction whenever you explore a new area of your body.
Don’t forget to apply more massage oil from time to time, either.
After a few more minutes of clitoris stimulation, it’s time to slide a finger inside her vagina. Use the classic “come here” motion of your finger, only make sure your palm is facing down, not up. This is because she’s lying on her back and her g-spot (or g-area if you will) is at the bottom.
Once you’ve continued this for a few more minutes, you can safely start putting your penis inside her. Do it as slowly as you inserted your finger. You’ll have plenty of time to do it hardcore some other time as right now your focus should be on giving her her (first) vaginal orgasm. It’s all about her this time.
How do you stimulate her with her penis? Just make sure you start slow, then increase speed, then slow down again and so on until you feel she’s ready to climax. At that point, it’s important to NOT ejaculate, as you will lose your ability to stimulate her further at the same pace.
The solution: keep on keeping on until she reaches that orgasm. Trust me, it will be the most beautiful thing you’ll ever see. And she’ll thank you for it.